Giving the Green Light

You want to meet someone, so you keep putting yourself "out there".  You go out with friends, you're dressed up and looking good, but NO ONE strikes up conversation with you.

Why???? Are you invisible?

Of course not!  A few simple tweaks will turn this around and you'll forget you were ever the invisible woman.

First and foremost, you must know there's a strong probability that you're getting checked out but not noticing it.  I'm sure you want to disagree with me, but I guarantee it.  When you believe no one is looking, you're not going to SEE anyone looking.

So how do you go from being the invisible woman to meeting droves of men when you go out?  Ok, forget droves.  How about ONE?  Keep these few steps in mind and see everything start to shift.

• Keep the conversations with your friends light and fun, and take a look around a bit more.  Your friends understand this.  If they expect deep conversation, it should be in a private space.  Expand your peripheral and pay attention to what's happening around you.  Only focusing on your friends and getting into deep conversations communicates to everyone around you that you're not approachable.  Flirt with everyone.  Lighten it up.

• When you want to be approached, give the Green Light. What does that mean?  Use your eyes to make an invitation.  Make eye contact a few seconds longer than is comfortable.  Smile!  And look again.  It's classic flirting, it's old-school, and it works.  

•  Even if you're not 100% jazzed about someone who may have approached you, talk to him anyway.  If you give the cold shoulder to someone because he's not "your type" you're feeding your unapproachable energy.  Engage in conversations every chance you get, though you can keep it short if it's someone you're not interested in.  

• Practice, practice, and play nice.  Everyone wants a hot commodity, and if you're chatting with Mr. So So, it draws attention from other men as well.  Stay open to conversation, HAVE FUN, and give men permission to approach you with eye contact and a smile.  Be genuine, engaging, and you won't believe how many people will be drawn to you!

Don't be fooled by the simplicity of these few steps.  They WORK!   It's all about being comfortable and allowing others to be comfortable with you.  Give it a try and share your experiences or ask questions in the comments below.  Love and Mojo to you!